
My First Period: Stories From Across the USA
We reached out to girls living in states across the USA in person or online, asking them to share with us their anonymous first period stories. We wanted girls across the country to know that so many of us have a period story to share, and that girls’ first periods can happen in all different ways! But together we share the experience of getting our periods for the first time, and so we are not so different after all. For more information, see the Gender, Adolescent Transitions & Environment (GATE) Program . Artwork courtesy of Tegan Stuart, Mailman School of Public Health, Class of 2021
West
Alaska
Still the Same Me
When I first got my period, I was at my best friend's house and I didn't tell my mom at first. I wasn't for sure I got it cause I noticed after it had dried and it was a light brownish stain. The next month when I got my period I was with my mom and told her that this period was my first one. It was pretty weird. I thought I would change but I'm still the same me!

California
Swimming
When I got my first period, I was at home after a day of school. When I first realized that it happened, I kind of freaked out. I didn’t know what to expect and it made me feel uncomfortable. I only told my mom because she had to help me buy pads. I was nervous to tell her, I’m not sure why. The weekend of my first period I was supposed to go swimming, and the idea of a tampon was way too scary. Even though I didn’t swim, I was able to find ways to work through being on my period. It just takes a little while to understand that it is something every girl goes through at some point. It is normal and there should be no reason to be worried about it. Having your first period is scary but it is something that you shouldn’t let affect your life and what you do. Over time it gets better.
California
Honors English Class
I got my first period in my Honors English class, in eighth grade. All of my friends had already gotten theirs, so the experience was met with relief and excitement. However, those feelings quickly subsided as I spent the rest of the day in a panic, constantly checking the seats I stood up from to make sure there were no blood spots left behind. I can't remember if I told my teacher the reason for my immediate dash to the bathroom, but I'm sure that I texted my mom as soon as I realized what was going on (secretly, of course, because no-phone policies are strict on the middle school campus). I know I was unsure of the new experience, and likely a little bit irritated that it would be decades before I could live without fear of blood lining my underwear (I still am, to be honest). Luckily, my mom had given me a "my first period"-sort of kit a few months earlier, and I religiously kept it glued to my side - just in case. It held the thickest pads you had ever seen and a couple of anti-bacterial wipes. Not much. But I stuck the pad to my underwear and, just to be safe, wrapped some toilet paper around it. Needless to say, I walked around in extreme discomfort for the rest of the day. Your first period is likely to be a really weird experience. For me, I lied to many people that I already had my period, mostly out of embarrassment that I was a "late bloomer." Some of my younger sister's friends even got their periods before me. But, looking back on it, I wish I would have realized that everyone matures according to their own bodies. There is no schedule for a perfect puberty, and it's important to love and be proud of your body and the way it functions, no matter what.
California
Road Trip
When I had my first period, I was on a long road trip. I had gone with my mom, my brother, my brother's friend and my grandma. I was not expecting to get my period this day, and I did not realize I had gotten it until the day I woke up at a hotel in San Francisco. My mom was scared at first because she thought the blood on the hotel sheets were from the prior guest, but then she realized that I was at that age where my period will begin. She made me squat on the toilet to see if any blood would come out, which did happen. After this she called everyone in the family and began to cry, saying that I was all grown up and stuff. She even called my dad whom I am not very close to. I hated how she told everyone and made it a big deal. By the end of the trip even my brother's friends found out I had my period. I felt so ashamed because I wanted to keep that stuff to myself, but my mom couldn't keep it to herself. I think what I hated most was how childlike my mom made me feel. She made a big deal on how many pads I used, and made me change any time I had the chance. It was at a point where the pad would be clean she would still make me change. That week was probably the worst. On my first day back to school, I told absolutely no one, I kept it as a secret for as long as I could. I never told anyone old I started until about 9th grade. I would lie about being on it and never getting it so that my friends even wondered if I was ok. I regret that so much, because every girl gets it, meaning that you should not be afraid. The only thing I really disliked that ruined from telling others was the large exposure and babying my mom gave me.

Colorado
Super Stepmom
I got my first period on July 5th, 2017. It was a short time after my 13th birthday and the day started off completely normal. My stepmom was working that day and my dad stayed home and made my sister and I lunch. He put our plates on the table and all of a sudden my stomach started hurting really, really badly. My stepmom had talked to me a little while before about periods and told me all about her experiences from cramps to mood swings. My stomach ache lasted for probably five minutes and then it went away and I thought nothing of it. Once I finished eating my lunch I decided to go to the bathroom and when I looked down I realized that I had gotten my first period! It wasn't a stomach ache after all, it was period cramps. Thankfully, my stepmom had already picked up pads for me from the store a few weeks before. Leading up to that day, I always felt weird when my friends talked about getting their periods because I hadn't gotten mine yet. But when I got mine, I felt a new, grown up feeling. Like I had accomplished something major. I decided to tell my sister and then my stepmom when she got home from work. She was very excited for me and so was I. My first period was a very light cycle, so I didn't go through many pads. But as time went and has gone on, they have gotten much heavier and I now use tampons as well. I know this probably sounds scary and makes you nervous but I can promise you that everything will be ok. You might get emotional, you might get very bad cramps, and you might not get any side effects but if you do, just know that it is all completely normal. Trust in your close friends and family members to go to advice for and even though this may be an awkward conversation, you might grow closer with the person you are confiding in.
Nevada
Camping Trip
My first period came when I was twelve or thirteen. It happened on the week long camping trip...with all the seventh and eighth graders. The teachers liked us to do one service project during these trips, and the one they arranged was trail building. We drove up to the base of the trail, expecting to dig out some rocks, turn over dirt, and be on our way. Instead, the organizers asked us each to carry two gallons of water up a seven mile trail. After an hour, we were cranky, our feet and hands were sore, and we convinced our teachers to rest. I sat down on a rock and noticed that things in my crotch area seemed a little... wetter than usual. I sneakily peeked between my legs and noticed a dark stain. Luckily, my parents had familiarized me with the female reproductive system at a young age, so I immediately guessed what was happening. Also luckily, my jeans were very dark blue, so the stain wasn’t extremely visible, and I don’t think anyone noticed. I tied a sweater from my backpack around my waist and hiked on, feeling slick and soggy the whole way up the mountain. I made it back down the mountain with my trusty butt-covering sweater, trying to guess which of my friends had gotten their period already who I could ask for help. I walked the final stretch to the cars with my friend Ashley, steered us away from the rest of the group, and whispered “I think i started my period, what do I do?” She responded “oh, just stuff your underwear with toilet paper for the ride, I have stuff back at camp you can use.” I later learned that she had thought she was the only one in the class who had their period, and was relieved to know someone else had theirs. When I got back to camp, another friend saw us looking for Ashley’s supplies and lent me a pad and showed me how to put it in my underwear. I dealt with my period awkwardly for the last couple days of the trip, but my friends and their pads saved me from a much more difficult experience. One night during a game of truth or dare, a girl asked if anyone had gotten their period, and the two girls who had been helping me out and I burst out laughing hysterically. When I got home, Ashley stayed over at my house, and we told my mom that another girl in the class shared a story with us about her mom buying her a cake when she got her first period. My mom ...got us an ice cream cake frosted pink with red decorations and my name spelled in red on the top. We didn’t share any with the boys of the house. By the end of middle school, every girl knew which pocket of our backpacks every girl in the class kept her tampon stash in, and we all knew we could borrow other people's tampons at any time.
Oregon
First Period PE
I got my first period when I was in the 6th grade and it was during PE. I was the first of my friends to get it and because of that, I was embarrassed. All of the other girls had said they haven’t gotten theirs and that it was SO early for someone to get theirs so I was confused and scared. I ended up not telling anyone, not even my mom. That was a huge mistake. I didn't take care of myself properly and I didn't use the right products and it was unhealthy. My advice would be to talk to someone you TRUST because this is all a part of life! And you shouldn't be embarrassed because every girl goes through it, no matter how early or late! Its natural :)
Washington
What Is It?
I First got my period when I was 13 years old. I was home with my mom when I went to the bathroom before school and saw a bunch of blood when I wiped myself. I had never before heard of women having periods so when I first saw the blood I was very scared. I thought that the blood meant I had some disease. I immediately went to tell my mom about the blood. My mom then went and explained to me what a period was and why women get them. My first period overall was not to bad beside the nausea and cramps I get every month along with my period. My advice to girls who are just getting their period is to keep track of their period. I would also give the advice of drinking lots of coconut water, soaking in Epson salts and avoiding spicy foods as well as just wearing comfortable non-constricting clothes.
Washington
Softball White Pants
I was at state for softball wearing white pants :( I was nervous because I was four hours from home and had no “family” with me at the time. I told my best friend who had stuff with her to help me out. I checked often because I was nervous, both because of those white pants and being in front of everyone. Just don’t let it stop you from doing the things you love. Fight through it I guess.
Wyoming
Family Dinner
When I got my first period I was at my grandparent’s house for a family dinner, and let me tell you, I was terrified. I was with my dad, and felt uncomfortable telling him, so, I called my mom and proceeded to curl into a ball on the bathroom floor and bawl my eyes out. It was a scary thing, for I knew so little about it, especially because my period came relatively early for me. Managing my first period introduced me to not only the world of womanhood, but the world we all call stress. Because yes, periods are a very stressful thing at young ages. My advice is to not panic. It happens to all the women out there, and it’s a good thing to relate to. Yes, blood coming out of you is awful, scary, hurtful, embarrassing, and terrifying, but if you think about it, it’s just another part of you that you’re going to have to live with, and it’s awesome to overcome those things.
Southwest
Arizona
Female Figure
I was at home with my parents. I was a little afraid because I thought I still had some time. While my mom had told me the basics, it was still scary to just suddenly see blood. I immediately went to her because we had an open relationship. There was no way I was telling my dad. She hugged me and said she had pads in the bathroom and explained again how they worked. I think every girl needs an older female figure in their life, be it a mom, step mom, aunt, family friend, teacher, whatever, to help them navigate what to expect and how to handle this time. Not just the blood aspect, but everything that comes with menstruation.
New Mexico
On Purpose
I was 11 years old, and I was scared even though I had the period story in fifth grade. I purposely left my bloody underwear with the blood facing up in the laundry basket at home, so my mom would come to me because I didn't want to go to her. I didn't tell anyone, and really didn't know how to react. I managed my first menstrual period out of fear. My advice to younger people would be to not be afraid and to have the conversation with adult peers in your life that you can trust to call on at any time of the day to support you -- specifically your mom because she loves you more than we give them credit for loving us. Make connections to adults -- your teachers at school, your coaches, your church teachers, your neighbors -- find someone "older and wiser" to mentor you and stick by you. Intentionally allow yourself the freedom to learn from them and to empower you in your daily walk. Embrace the woman you are growing into. And, on a side note, remember that periods are important for our next steps as women -- but, save the sex for your marriage partner and talk to the adult mentors in your life about how to do that and why that is so important with all the crazy hormones that start after our first menstrual period.
Texas
Pad Envelope
It all started when I was in eighth grade. I was about 14 and I was at school all alone when I had my first period. My mother was out of town, so I didn't know what to do. I am a little extra, so I called my aunt and she came to the school and pick me up. She explained how a period is normal and everyone gets one. But I felt different, I felt that I was not normal since I had my period later than most girls. As I grew up I became more insecure about my period. Then my period never came for a year, which was when I was 16. When I turned 17 I visited the doctor and learned I had PCOS, meaning polycystic ovarian syndrome which causes irregular periods. I have learned how to do this with the help of my family and friends. It is okay to have an irregular period, believe me I know. Struggling with an irregular period is nothing to be ashamed of. Personally, I have drawn for my experience learning how to take care of my period by taking care of my hygiene and making sure I place the pad correctly, of course there would be trial and error, but it helps you learn. Some advice I would give is having a regular or irregular period is normal and allows you to learn and grow.
Texas
Cousin's House
When I first got my first period, I was 12 years old and in 5th grade. It was early in the morning in my bathroom, the last day of school. When I first discovered that I was on my period, I was very surprised because I never thought it would happen to me even though I have seen my mom go through it before. This is the thing, I had not noticed that I was on my period and just went to school without pads and without knowing I was on my period. I was told my mom needed to talk to me in the front office at my school. So, I go and I see her carrying an envelope. She told me, “I saw that your nightwear was stained with blood, inside this envelope there are two pads. Go to the restroom and put one on right now and we'll discuss this later.” For me, I did pretty well in handling my first period. I didn't freak out too much, but I was very bummed that this would be happening to me every month. The advice I would give to younger girls is to always prepare for your period, to prevent embarrassing moments and to look for an adult woman figure, someone you trust to guide you through the process. Whether it's a mom, sister, friend’s mom or an older trustworthy woman. You’ll feel much safer.
Texas
Alone at School
I was 11 when I first got my period, and I was at my cousin's house. I remember getting up from the chair I was sitting at and feeling this sharp pain come from my abdomen. At first, I didn't know why I had gotten such an ugly pain, so I asked my grandma about it. She told me that I had probably eaten something bad or something similar. The next day I had gotten up just fine and went to the restroom. But I was doing my business and felt weird, so I look down. Red was all I saw, and I started to freak out because I didn't fully understand why I was bleeding. I had very little information about girls getting their periods. I got up, told my grandma and she called my mom. At that time, I was embarrassed by it and didn't want to tell anyone about it. Soon my mom came with a blue bag filled with small green packets. They were pads and she showed me how to put them on and told me to change it throughout the day. After all that I didn't feel like myself at all and I wouldn't drink anything because then that would cause me to need to use the restroom and that was only remind me about the fact that I was on my period. All I did was sleep that day and pray that it would stop. I didn't take it very well and I know some are eager to start theirs but the only advice I would have with other girls is to be prepared for it. Get as much information as you can on them, so you know what to expect.
Texas
Excited at 11
I cannot exactly remember how my period started due to it being so many years ago, however, I vaguely remember certain parts. It was in the summer for sure and I was 11 years old which is not super young but not super old, so I guess I was at an average age. I believe I was in my house and I went to the restroom, which is when I discovered my first period. When I realized what was happening, I felt excited because I knew this was a big step into adulthood, but I also felt worried since it was something new in my life and a big change. The reason why I felt excited, which I know might sound strange to others, is because my friends and I had more knowledge about periods than other girls due to some of them starting at a very early age since third grade. I really believed it was something great to experience until I actually did, yet I just wanted to experience what my friends how to go through and fit in. The first person I told was my mom because I called out to her from the restroom and she brought me my first pad. I don't like talking about it with other people unless they are close friends or family obviously, however it was inevitable and mostly everyone I'm close to found out. The second person was probably my grandma since she spent a lot of time with me and then some of my friends because I told them. There wasn't really a specific way for me to manage my period other than letting my mom know about it. I think we went to the doctor's office a couple of days after finding out and my pediatrician recommended books about puberty. My mom ended up buying them but hid one due to it containing some information about certain things which she thought was not appropriate yet. In the end I just managed it like every other girl would and read the books that my doctor recommended. There's a lot of advice that I have for younger girls. I do not suggest tampons for girls at a young age unless you are going swimming because in my opinion pads are easier to use and I'm more comfortable. There is nothing to freak out about, I know how scary it can be when you're young and it changes everything, but it is normal and you will get used to it. Some other advice that I will give is don't worry about getting changed at school when wearing a pad because that rarely happens, however, if you are worried just ask a friend to check or excuse yourself to the restroom. Lastly, if you are experiencing cramps, I highly recommend painkillers or ibuprofen and the heating pad. It always works for me so hopefully it will for you too.
Texas
Symbol of Womanhood
When I was in elementary school, periods were the symbol for womanhood, a new stage of age, growth, and maturity. Only the exclusive "fast growers" would get their periods in elementary, and another bunch of students would get their periods in middle school. Getting your period was considered an amazing achievement, a time of finally growing up and climbing the latter to adulthood. Or so I thought. It was September 9th in, I believe, 7th grade when I felt something strange in my underwear. I remember thinking, "did I finally get my period?" I entered the school bathroom and, of course, pulled down my skirt and saw a red splotch. I still remember jumping up and down in elation! "I'm finally a woman," I said to myself. I thought from here on out life would be amazing as a "new woman." However, life didn't turn out as amazing as I thought with my period. I started having extremely painful cramps. My breasts ached, and I couldn't concentrate at school or at home. My body completely rejected my period. I told my mom about it after I returned home, and I still remember her telling me to use code words and to keep period talk to myself. When I was in pain, I didn't tell anyone. If I needed help or advice, I wouldn't ask anyone. I had to keep my mouth shut. Worst of all, my mom told me to be "lady-like" and to never say the word "period." My family is very anti-bathroom talk. We only bought pads, and other options such as birth control, cups, or tampons were considered un-ladylike. It was struggle, but I eventually made my period compatible with my body over time. One of the biggest advices I have for younger people is to TALK ABOUT THEIR PERIODS. Although my household forbid bathroom talk, TALK. Destigmitizing periods will help other menstruators get proper treatment, care, or attention. For example, some menstruators have endometriosis or some period-related illness. Without the ability to voice periods, which happen to menstruators every month, we won't get proper medical attention. Periods affect our everyday lives, and to have period talk stigmatized, we aren't able to fully express what is part of who we are.
Midwest
Illinois
Summer Dance Camp
I remember the day I got my first period so vividly. I was at summer dance camp and it was my first year there. I was sitting against the wall watching the other girls dance because I didn’t know the dance just yet. Out of nowhere, I felt like I had to pee so I raised my hand to go to the bathroom. I was sitting there for like 5 minutes because she didn’t see my hand but I eventually went. When I went to go pull my skirt down there was a whole spot of blood and I was initially really upset about my skirt being messed up. It was blue, sparkly, and poofy. Before I got my period, I knew what it was but I didn’t expect it to come right then so I threw a whole little frustrated tantrum before I went out to tell my dance instructor. I think I got my period in the perfect place because I felt really comfortable there and I got a lot of help. They gave me these big comfy pants even though I was really stressed about ruining my skirt. To all the girls, just never be afraid to ask questions. Well when I got my first period I was at my aunt’s house as my grandmother was out of town. So it was a Wednesday morning when I woke up and my lower stomach was hurting really really bad; a pain that I never felt before. I got up and there was blood all over my sheets. So I went to the bathroom and wiped myself and there was blood all over the tissue. I told my auntie that there was something wrong. I explained to her about my severe stomachache and the blood on the sheets, and she asked me the question “Didn’t nobody ever talked to you about your period?” And my response was no…I didn’t know what that was. I was only in third grade at the time. So she explained to me it was you becoming a woman, and you hitting puberty. Then she gave me pads and Tylenol and told me everything I needed to do when I get my period. My advice to the little girls out there is to go out and talk with your family members, or to someone you trust about periods ask questions. Don’t be afraid, we as women go through puberty. It’s a normal part of womanhood. I got my period on New Year’s Eve and at first I was confused because it felt like I was sweating down there. So I walked to the bathroom at 2:00 AM and saw blood. I immediately knew that this was my period because I’ve come across videos about it. But I did not know what a pad was, so I took a shower and instead of a pad used tissue. I went to wash the clothes I was wearing because I had bled through, which meant I had to wash my sheets. So my mom asked why are you washing them again, and I froze into place because it was around 3:00 AM. I told her what happened and she showed me how to use a pad and a heating pad. Now I'm always open with my mom about periods and we track them.
Indiana
Grandma's Love
I was at my grandma’s house when I got my first period. I had a very bad stomachache which I later learned was cramps. I was honestly very scared because I didn’t know what was happening. Also, my mom was then in rehab so I was not able to talk to her. I didn’t tell my grandma because I knew my older cousins had pads in the bathroom so I manage. When I went home later that night I realized I did not have any pads or tampons at my house so I called my grandma because I was scared to tell my dad. She came by my house and explained everything I needed to know, and gave me the supplies I needed for the next week. I started the 7th grade that week and I hated it. Most of my friends helped me because they have already had their periods so I feel like I got lucky. I feel like the main thing girls need to know is that they don’t need to feel weird or scared to tell someone. I t happens to everyone at a certain point in their life, if you can find an important female figure in your life tell them if you can. They will understand and they will help you.
Iowa
Basketball Game
When I got my first period, I was in 8th grade and I was at a basketball game. I wasn't sure if I actually got it or not. When I got home, I checked and sure enough I did. I felt so embarrassed so I decided not to tell anyone about it. I sat in the bathroom for 15 minutes until I was able to figure out how to use a tampon. After a month, I decided to tell my mom because I knew she had her suspicions. Now when I look back on it, I regret not telling her sooner because she knew a lot more than I did and I had no reason to be embarrassed. I advise others to not be afraid and tell someone right away so they can help you. People who have had their period for years can provide a lot of great advice so don't miss out on the opportunity to learn and gain more advice. Getting your period isn't something to be ashamed of so ask when you need help and don't feel like you can't tell anyone.
Kansas
Don't Be Afraid
My first period came in gradually, for several days near the end of my sixth grade year. It was confusing for me at first, because I didn’t understand why there was small brown spots in my underwear. After the stains kept appearing for a week or so I realized that it was my first period. At first I was a bit afraid, because I had heard a lot of bad things about menstruation. I told my mom and she set me up with pads right away. Her confident reaction made me feel much better about my period. For all the young ones out there, I want to tell them to not be afraid of their period. I understand and agree it can be quite a change, but everything will work itself out. With time your period will just become a normal part of your life. My main fear surrounding menstruation was the cramps, and they aren’t fun, but I promise you will survive. There are ways to minimize your cramping, and that’s different for everyone. The most important thing to remember is that you should not be ashamed of your period or your body and its changes. They are natural, and healthy, and there isn’t anything wrong with that at all. Stay strong!
Minnesota
Soccer Shock
I got my period during a soccer tournament where I was guest playing on a friend’s team. I was embarrassed and didn't know what to do, so I just ignored it. I kept to myself until I got home and told my mom. I just put toilet paper in my underwear and ignored it until I got home. Advice: it's a natural part of life all females go through and you shouldn't be embarrassed! all females understand and will help!
Missouri
Purple Pants
The first time I got my period I knew I’d gotten it right as it hit. I was at school in purple pants and I remember rushing to the bathroom. I saw the blood but I didn’t have any feminine products so I just put my light purple pants back on and hoped for the best. An hour later my friend told me you could see it through my pants, I had bled through. So, I went to the school guidance counselor to hide my pants and sat and talked with her while I waited for my mom to bring me new black pants. After school, my mom took me to Walgreens and taught me the lay of the land about pads and tampons. For the remainder of my period, my mom and sister helped me every day to make sure I knew how to change, when to change, and brought me ample supplies. My advice to a girl getting her period is to not be scared, it’s perfectly natural. I’d also tell her to find an older girl or woman and ask her any/all questions. It’s normal to be confused and a bit ashamed, but remember it’s totally natural for the female body.
Missouri
Coffee Shop
The first time I got my period was in 7th grade. The clock hit 3:15 and the start of winter break hit. My friends and I planned to go get coffee at a nearby coffee shop. I ordered my coffee and sat down to wait for it. My friends were cracking jokes and of course I had to go to the bathroom so I didn’t pee my pants laughing. I went into the bathroom and my pee came out red, I was terrified. I immediately called my mom and she came to pick me up. Luckily, it was winter break. I spent the rest of the week watching gossip girl with my dogs as my mom brought me chocolate, pamprin, and teas. Thank god I have the best mom ever. When getting your period, I advise you to immediately get a female adult. Having an older female that has experienced this as well can help you to understand how to handle the situation and the best methods of taking care of yourself. You will have a lot of symptoms and pamprin is a pill sold at Walgreens and various pharmacies that has been the most helpful for my symptoms. Although the first time you get your period is scary and weird, over time you will get used to this experience. Congratulation you are now a woman!
Missouri
Homework in Bed
Once I was sitting in bed doing homework and all of the sudden my stomach started hurting and I went to the bathroom and I had gotten my first period. It was awkward to tell my mom but then it was all okay I felt old like a whole new woman! For someone just getting their period, I know it might seem scary right now but it’s not as scary as it seems. A few tips are to talk to any older females such as a mom or older sister or other trusted adult when it happens, so you can get whatever you need whether it be pads or tampons or medicine. Also, tampons are pretty easy to use, it just takes a little practice. One medicine that helps is Midol which is basically advil but targeted towards period cramps. Also heating pads!
Southeast
Florida
Mother and Aunt
My first period was a surreal and surprising event! My first period came over night and I discovered the blood in my underwear while using the bathroom. I had been experiencing cramps and aches leading up to getting my period but I didn't know at the time that it was because of my impending period. My mother was in the shower while I was using the bathroom and I told her that I there was blood in my underwear and she responded "RUN THAT BY ME AGAIN?" I was shocked and initially didn't think anything of it. She told me that my period had occurred and that I needed to get a pad. We didn't have any pads in the house because my mother only used tampons and we were running late to get to school. My mother drove to the corner store and bought a cheap pack of pads and gave them to me to use throughout the day. She told me that we would talk more about it when I got home from school. When I got home, my mother and my aunt sat me down and had an honest conversation with me about menstruation. They told me that it was something that I had to handle myself and that I could never let anyone know when I was menstruating. They also explained to me that I could have babies now because of my menstruation. This resulted in the most narrow-minded, sex education talk that I have ever heard. My mother eventually took me to the store where she bought me a purse for my pads and taught me how to choose a pad size.
Florida
Sisters
Luckily I was at home when I got my first period, but I happened to be having a sleepover with my best friend at the time. It was a rare comical situation because the first time she got her period we were also together. When it happened, I was just a bit annoyed because I thought “oh it’s happening...and then for the rest of my life...” I have two older sisters and understood what was going to happen before I personally got mine. Almost immediately after, I told my best friend and my mother. Since I was at home, managing my period was pretty easy. I knew where my sisters stored the pads, and I knew how to use them, so I was pretty much set. The best way to handle your period is to always have pads on you and to remember that hydrogen peroxide can potentially get blood stains out.
Florida
It's Normal
I got my first period when I was 11 and visiting my dad who lived in the NYC. I was confused as to what it was as I didn’t know what a period was supposed to look or feel like, so I asked my sisters who were with me as both already had theirs. They told me that it wasn’t my period (it looked different than theirs) so I walked around not knowing what it was until I went back home a few days later and asked my mom about it. For younger people I’d just say that it’s normal and can happen anytime so to be prepared for it after they turn 10.
South Carolina
Daddy-Daughter Campout
When I was in fifth grade and had just turned eleven, I was at a daddy-daughter campout in the middle of nowhere. I was one of the oldest girls there, and other than that, there were only dads. All we had were nasty, multi-gender porta-potties to use the bathroom, and I was at least 45 minutes from home. I was using the bathroom in the porta-potty, and I remember feeling some cramps that day. I went to wipe and there was blood on the toilet paper. I ran out and whispered to my dad what had happened, and he and I stepped aside and called my mom. The best we could come up with was for me to use a paper towel and just keep it folded into a makeshift pad for my underwear. I remember girls coming up to me laughing about how someone had gotten their period in the porta-potty (they had spotted the blood), and I was pretty embarrassed because it was me. I was really glad I could talk to my dad about it so I could make sure I dealt with it correctly. When I got home my mom made sure I knew how to use everything and that I was all set for future periods. My advice regarding periods is to just be calm and comfortable with it. Realize it happens to all of us girls, and when it does you should talk to someone who you're comfortable with and trust to help you with it. Also try to use your resources when these events happen, so things don't get worse then they have to be.
Tennessee
Dad's Help
I got my first period when I was 12 years old. I was visiting my dad in Seattle for the summer, so I had no immediate menstruating relatives close to me. My doctor had told me I would be getting my first period soon, so I went out with my dad’s female best friend to buy some pads. It’s a good thing I did, because about a week later, I went to the bathroom and noticed blood in my underwear! I knew what a period was and even what to expect, but you can never truly prepare for your first period. I started to cry because I was scared. I called my mom and she taught me how to put on a pad over the phone. Thankfully, my dad was super supportive and took me out to buy all the foods I was craving. My dad and I have always had a close relationship, so I was never afraid to tell him about anything, including my period. I remember texting him and telling him I felt like a leaky faucet because when I got up to get another pad, I leaked onto the bathroom floor. I would tell young menstruators that it’s ok to feel scared when you get your first period, and that periods are something you shouldn’t be ashamed of.
Tennessee
Always Prepared
I had my first period at school. I was prepared because I always kept pads in my backpack. I was kind of ready for my period. I felt like my first period happened a lot later than all of my friends and I thought that that made me less mature or old. But that isn’t the case. People have periods at different times, at different places, and under different circumstances. It doesn’t make one person better than the other. When I first had my period, I told my mom. My mom is very supportive, but it doesn’t mean it’s not awkward. For me, talking about a period is just not ideal; however, knowing that every other woman goes through the same thing makes periods a little less stressful. I advise other girls to talk to other women. It might be awkward, but it’s worth it! I also advise you to be prepared, even if you’re pretty sure you won’t have your period. Once, I went on a brief trip and didn’t pack any menstrual supplies because I thought I had just had a period; however, my period happened a lot sooner than I thought and I was unprepared. Another point of advice, however, is to not get stressed out by being unprepared. I remember being super stressed out because I had a period during a trip to the beach and I didn’t know how to put on a tampon. I was so stressed after trying and trying but then I took a break, de-stressed, tried again, and it worked. So the moral is, don’t stress over certain problems with your period. Chances are, others have gone through the same thing.
Northeast
Massachusetts
Girls Bathroom
I remember on the day of my first menstrual period, I was in the bathroom at my elementary school, the whole day, I had a headache, and I felt a weird feeling in my stomach. The big girls were huddled around the sink, talking about whether they use 'pads' or 'tampons.' I had no clue what they were talking about. I overheard what seemed like a bogus horror story of bleeding from your private parts. I assumed they were talking nonsense, but I still checked to see if I was bleeding. That day I went out with my parents and siblings to eat. The whole night I complained of a headache and that I was going to throw up. My parents were worried, so we returned home, and I immediately went to bed. I woke up in the middle of the night, feeling very uncomfortable like I had peed myself. I went to the bathroom, and as the big girls had said, there was blood coming from my private parts. I immediately freaked out, thinking I was dying. I ran into my parent's bedroom and told them what had happened. They both looked at me and laughed, which made me cry even harder. My mom consoled and explained what was happening and told me how this meant I was a woman. My mom forever sentimental began to cry and laugh and stress me out. But my dad, who was sitting in the corner, said he knew the day would come where he would have to go to the store and buy his daughter pads.
New Jersey
5th Grade Class
When I got my period, I was in 5th grade. I remember it clearly, we were in a straight line going up the stairs headed to my next class. As we went up the stairs, I started to feel uncomfortable, my back started to hurt. It felt like I woke up on the wrong side of the bed. As we walked inside of our classroom, I started to feel stomach pains, and aching. After a while of trying to ignore the pain, I decided to raise my hand to use the bathroom but my teacher didn’t let me. So I would sit there and suffering, raising my hand every five minutes. Finally, she let me go. I walked in the bathroom, I used the toilet, and as I cleaned myself up, what I saw was not what I was expecting. I was in shock, not knowing what to do. I thought this was the end, I actually thought I was dying. Or maybe it was a cut. I got a bunch of toilet paper and stuffed it in thinking it should stop soon. I went back to class, and got assigned to a partner for an activity. We picked a spot by the sink and counter. We sat on the floor doing our project, while I was feeling discomfort. We finished our project, as I slid up to go hand in my work, I turned around and saw a trail of blood I made as I scooted to get up. I freaked out and grabbed tissues to wipe it. I was embarrassed and cried to myself. Thankfully, no one saw. As school ended, I went to my aftercare class where we would wait for our parents. I was very close to my aftercare teachers, I trusted them. I told them thinking I had to go to the hospital because the bleeding didn’t stop. At this point, I have my sweater tied around my waist. As I told my aftercare teachers, they started laughing I was very confused. They explain to me what a period was, how it works, and what to do. My teachers came with me to the bathroom, and gave me a pad they had. I used it and felt more safe. After that, I felt more educated and realized a chapter of my life has just started. My teacher called my older brother to pick me up since my clothes were stained. So yeah, that’s my terrifying story. My advice to young kids is to just stay calm, tell a female adult, and they will help you to start your journey. Also, you will got your period every month, if not, that’s normal too. It just means it’s irregular and it will come soon. If not, I advise you talk to a doctor. But, it’s usually irregular when your body starts to notice changes, for example, dieting. Your period may change, and most likely will change your period schedule. TIP: Bring a pad/tampon where ever you go! You never know when it may come. It’s better to stay safe than sorry! Good luck, don’t be afraid for it is the beginning of the next chapter of your life!
New Jersey
Scared at 9 Years Old
I was about 9 years old when I got my period. I remember going to the bathroom and seeing blood on my underwear. I screamed my mother’s name and she knew why. She told me it was okay and it just meant that I was a woman now. She taught me everything about what to do and how I felt like my life was over. I didn’t want it! I was 9 for God’s sakes. Who wants to bleed from their vagina? I felt horrible. I didn’t tell anyone but my mother told my grandmother told my aunt. The first time I had it, it was only for three days. Then it shot up to five days. I put my big girl panties on and managed it very well. My advice for the younger females is to not be so scared. It’s okay to be just a little, it’s different and new. It’s going to be mood swings and body changes, but put on your big girl panties and I guarantee you can handle it. You’re a woman! Enjoy it!
New Jersey
I'm a Woman
Believe it or not I actually wanted to get my period. When I first started spotting I got super happy and I ran home and told my mom “Look I am a woman!”. I was 11 years old. Other than the fact that I was excited to get my period I wasn’t prepared for the pain. Luckily my period only lasts 5-6 days, which is good. Anyway, don’t rush to grow because when you grow you will want to be kids again. Good luck!
New York
Untouchable
On June 10th, I woke up and went to use the restroom. I went to the restroom and found out I got my period. I mean it was normal right? Well my sister got it before me 5 years ago and she always talked about how she had her period. My mom also talked about having your period a few years ago. Since it was a Sunday I had to go to our Hindu temple and get ready. In my culture, we don’t touch anything for 3 days when we get our period. My mom and sister had been following that for a while now. I knew exactly where to sit and to NOT touch anything. We went to temple and since I was “untouchable”, I did everything but sat away from everyone else in case I touched them. Then, Monday came along, and it was totally normal since my friends got their periods before me and knew what was going on. I talked to my sister and mom about my period the most since I lived with them. Since it lasted four days, everyday something would be different. I just woke up, showered, put my pad on and went to school. It felt normal to me, just with that extra step of wearing a pad. For younger girls, I would tell them not to freak out, and this is normal, every girl goes through this.
New York
Temple Terror
One Saturday, I woke up, got ready to go to Mandir (Hindu temple) for dance practice. I was just about to step out my door when I felt something down there. Once I had developed my conscience around the age of 5 or 6, I never peed my pants afterwards. However, it felt like I had peed my pants at that moment. I was 12 years old. I dropped my stuff and ran to the bathroom. In the back of my head, I knew it couldn’t be pee because I would’ve controlled it, and it was far too warm to be pee. I got to the bathroom, pulled down my pants and looked at my underwear. I saw blood. I was so scared even though I knew it was my period. I yelled, “Mommy!” My [mom] came and she asked me what was wrong. I told her that I got my period and she gave me a pad, showed me how to put it on and put me to bed. She pulled up an article, “All about puberty” on her phone and gave it to me. I was crying because I was scared that my life would now drastically change because I had gotten my period. I ended up staying home and relaxing the whole day. For younger girls, I would advise them to speak to older girls and women like your mom or teacher or just someone you confide in. They will help you whether you have emotional, social or bodily issues. They have been through it. But remember, even if they say something that might make it sound negative, taboo or just something you don’t like, you don’t have to listen.
New York
Anticipation
I was around 13 or 14 when I had my first menstrual period. I remember the exact moment I realized what was happening - I was ecstatic at the idea of entering womanhood (although the cramps quickly replaced the happy feelings). It was late in the evening when I went to the bathroom and noticed just a little bit of menstrual blood on my underwear - nothing exciting or exhilarating, it just happened. Since I was on the later end, a lot of my girlfriends had already experienced their first periods and shared their stories with me. I had been waiting in anticipation for several months. I was shocked at how different the experience was for everyone, some had wild stories of getting theirs on a water slide, some experienced it earlier and some later, yet we all felt united in our struggle - a sense of camaraderie built on menstrual cramps, body aches, and monthly acne breakouts. I always had a close relationship with my mother so naturally she guided me through the process. She taught me how to use different feminine hygiene products and decide which I was most comfortable with (to this day tampons make me queasy). In the south Asian community there is often a stigma around menstruation, and it can be difficult to navigate, but older female figures have always been there for me (aunts, cousins, friends, etc.). There is a culture of hiding your menstruation and occasionally, being shamed for it. I encourage you to not to conform to this! Keep what feels private to yourself, but never allow anyone to shame you for your body’s magical natural processes. It is important to trust yourself and your body throughout this process! It can be such a different experience for everyone and every woman has her likes and dislikes. Despite the differences, it is always reassuring to know that you are not alone! At first it feels out of place or weird to talk about, but we need to normalize these discussions and create space for women to share their experiences. If you have questions or are curious about any part of womanhood, I promise it is more than likely that any woman is willing to help.
New York
Summer at the Park
I got my period on August 9th 2016, when I was 13 years old. My cousins were over for the summer vacation, so we decided to go to the park. At the park, they were showing a movie, so we decided to stay. I went with my sisters, my cousins, my aunts and my mom. I was wearing grey sweats and brought a sweater in case it got chilly. As I was playing, I noticed a stain on my sweats. I thought that it was mud, so I brushed it off and continued to play. As we were leaving, my mom noticed the stain and realized I got my period. They quickly tied the sweater around me and rushed home. I was really confused as to what was happening and got extremely scared. When we got home, my mom told me to go to the bathroom. When I noticed all the blood, I started crying. My mom came in and showed me how to put a pad on. Afterwards, I went inside my bedroom and continued to cry because I didn’t know what was happening. My mom came in and explained everything to me. However, she didn’t explain it in detail, so I went on the internet and researched about it. I was also embarrassed to ask my mom or anyone any questions I had. I didn’t talk to my dad or any males about my period until now. Something I want to tell my sisters when they get their period is to ask questions and don’t be embarrassed about it. If you are ever confused or have any questions, be open and ask me or anyone else you’re comfortable with. I wasn’t comfortable and always relied on the internet, which didn’t always answer my questions.
Pennsylvania
Awkward but Comfortable
I was about 11-12 when I got my first period. I was at my house when it happened, thankfully. It came as a slight surprise when I just saw dark red on my underwear that I knew just must be blood. I felt relatively comfortable telling my mom, although the following conversation was slightly awkward. I had already learned information about getting my period in fifth grade, when the whole class of girls had a “tea party” and listened to adults tell us what to do. I was a bit clumsy using pads/tampons at first, but after a few months, I got the hang of it. My advice to those who haven’t gotten their period yet: don’t feel pressured to use tampons if you don’t want to, but many find they are immensely more comfortable; cold water will get the stains out; and don’t be afraid to use two pads when you are sleeping, one placed normally, and the other placed along the back to prevent dripping.
Pennsylvania
Scared of Tampons
I remember I was in eighth grade when I first got my period, which seemed somewhat later than others I knew. I remember being scared of using tampons for a while and eventually had my sister explain them to me. I was fortunate that I was never really in a bad public situation when my period struck, and I always kept supplies on me in fear of such a thing happening. I remember my first periods didn’t come with many symptoms, but as the years went on, cramps and other symptoms emerged. My biggest advice for younger people would be to not be scared of your period, because it’s such a normal thing that so many people have to deal with. I think the past few years have really seen an increase in the emergence of public conversations about menstrual health and awareness, and I hope this trend continues. Educate yourself, educate others, and know that it’ll all be ok.